According to one study, women in committed relationships find oral sex more pleasurable than casual hookups or friends-with-benefits sex. They also like it better when their partner cums quickly during fellatio.
But just how much do women really love giving blowjobs? Bustle asked women to get real about their feelings on oral sex, and the responses were eye-opening.
1. It’s a great way to warm up
Blow jobs are a great way to warm up — physically and mentally. They also help to build sexual tension and can be used as a form of oral sex foreplay before a deeper connection is made. When done right, blowjobs can lead to vaginal orgasms and even full body orgasms during sex and masturbation.
The key to giving a good blow job is knowing how to make your partner’s eyes roll back in their head, their toes curl, and their lips pucker up. It’s important to know your partner and what makes them tick. That’s why it’s so important to communicate with them openly and honestly about their desires (and don’t be afraid to use dirty talk!).
A recent survey conducted by fellatio found that women’s most-liked way to start a blowjob was by licking their partner’s penis. The results showed that the licking technique triggered areas of the brain in the back of their throat and caused them to salivate, which is what makes it so satisfying.
However, if your partner’s taint and balls are sensitive you may want to start with another technique. Velvet Co sexpert Julieta Chiara suggests trying the “taint-to-tip” method by slowly licking your partner’s penis from their taint to the tip. This technique is especially effective if your partner has a sensitive perineum and/or balls.
2. It’s a great way to get her attention
A lot of people don’t think about giving head, but it’s actually quite erotic. Often, it can lead to orgasms that make the giver and receiver both cum—and sometimes even ejaculate. The best part is that it’s a very empowering sexual experience.
It’s also not just about pleasure, but about connection and intimacy. “Psychologically speaking, folx who like blow jobs may be drawn to the act because it’s a way of intimately enjoying their penis,” says Moushumi Ghose, MFT, a licensed sex therapist.
Unlike when you’re on top of someone, you can feel every inch of his shaft in your mouth—and it’s so much sexier than just having it up in the air or in your butt. You can play with it, stroke it, push down on it to add pressure, and let your tongue explore its texture and throb.
Of course, it’s always important to communicate with your partner about what you want and don’t want during oral sex. So if you’re not into hair pulling or deep-throating, or you want to switch to vaginal and anal sex, just ask. And remember that a good oral sex session should always be mutually satisfying. That’s why, when asked how long they like a blow job to last, most women said as long as their partner wanted. So have fun and keep the communication flowing!
3. It’s a great way to get her to orgasm
For many women, oral sex can be a huge orgasm trigger. It’s the direct connection between her mouth/throat and her genitals that creates the extra sexual energy that often results in orgasm. Interestingly enough, this sensation can also be felt when sucking the head of her penis. A great way to test this is to see how her throat vibrates or quivers in time with the suck.
To help get her to orgasm, it’s important to start slow with a lot of focus on the clitoris. Lick and lick and lick that area to really explore it. Try to move your tongue up and down, side to side, or in a figure eight motion around the glans. If she doesn’t orgasm during the first go-around, be patient and try again. Try to reach for her breasts and nipples (some ladies are very sensitive in these areas) as well, and don’t forget the anal stimulation.
It takes time and practice to perfect the art of oral sex, so be patient. It’s all about making her feel comfortable and pleasing during the experience, so don’t be pushy. If you are, she’ll be more likely to pull back and stop if she isn’t having any fun. Keep the conversation open and talk about what feels good to both of you, and how to get more pleasure from it in the future.
4. It’s a great way to end
Giving head can be a great way to end a session with your lover. It can add a little bit of friction to the experience, which can be incredibly sexy and can also help to create heat in the room. In addition, it can be a great way to start a conversation about what else you want from your partner in the bedroom.
While many people think that oral sex is a strictly masculine activity, it can actually be very sexy for both genders. In fact, one study found that women in committed relationships enjoyed oral sex more than those in casual relationships. And according to a Reddit thread, some women feel that receiving a blowjob is more sexy than giving it.
It’s important to remember that giving a good blowjob takes practice. You can’t just bob your head up and down and hope for the best – a good blow job requires thought-out positions, signs of pleasure (like panting and moaning), and, above all, lots of practice.
There are a lot of things that can make a blowjob even more sexy, including stroking the penis with your hand and adding lubrication. But no matter what you do, it’s important to listen to your partner and to stop if you feel that something isn’t quite right. After all, oral sex is meant to be a pleasure for both of you.
