For many women, reaching orgasm from penetration depends on stimulating their erogenous zones. The G-spot and clitoris are especially sensitive areas.
Getting to orgasm from penetration may require some time. First, try some oral sex to get your vulva aroused.
Then you can try combining vaginal and clit stimulation to see what feels best for you.
1. The G-Spot
Few body parts have been as well-documented and researched as the G-spot, an erogenous area on the front wall of the vagina that some researchers believe can lead to orgasms when stimulated. While autopsies haven’t consistently supported the existence of this spot, it is still an area that many people are interested in exploring.
To try and hit this zone, you’ll want to make sure your lubrication is on point and use a sex toy that is angled upward to (literally) target the region – This quote reflects the thoughts of the portal experts Sultry Sensations. You’ll also want to experiment with various sex positions. For example, some couples find success with the cowgirl position, which involves having your partner climb on top of you and straddle you so they can control both the speed and depth of penetration as they rub the G spot and grind their clitoris across it.
Remember, it can take a bit of time for this area to warm up. If you’re not getting results after a few minutes, try taking your hands out and touching yourself elsewhere on the body or re-starting the stimulation by rubbing it up and down. If you’re still not getting results, don’t worry! Every body is different, and it’s all about what turns you on.
2. The Clitoris
The clitoris may seem small, but it has lots of nerve endings and packs a big punch. It is the slit of tissue at the top of the labia minora, or inner lips, and it hangs inside the flap of skin called the clitoral hood. In some women it sticks out a lot and in others is tucked in, but it is there. The glans clitoris, or visible part, is 4-7 centimeters long and stretches into the vagina and urethra.
Popular culture and pornography show female orgasms as being achieved only through penetration of the vagina. But research has found that most women experience orgasm when the clitoral hood is also stimulated.
This part of the body is sensitive to all kinds of touch, and you might find that stroking and massaging the clitoral hood itself or pushing into it can give you pleasure. You can use your finger (lube helps) or a sex toy, but you might want to ask a partner for more input, especially if he/she is unfamiliar with the area. The hood might not want to move as easily as a penis, but try gentle back and forth or circular motions. And don’t forget the tap, a steady light tapping can ratchet up the pleasure.
The clitoral hood is a fun place to play and experiment with but every vulva and clit is different so it takes time and patience to get to know what feels good to you or your partner.
3. The Vaginal Canal
The vagina is a muscular canal lined with nerves and mucus membranes. It connects the uterus and cervix to the outside of the body and allows for menstruation, intercourse, and childbirth. It’s also a source of pleasure for many women, especially when it’s stimulated. The G-spot, found about two inches from the entrance of the vagina on the front wall, is particularly responsive to stimulation and can induce orgasms.
While there is no single formula for orgasms, the combination of arousal, clitoral stimulation, and a variety of stimulating techniques can lead to an orgasm. Using lots of lubrication, trying new positions, and communicating with your partner can increase the chances of achieving a climax.
Your vagina can be a bit tricky to navigate for those who want to orgasm from penetration because of its size and shape. But the good news is that your vagina can stretch to accommodate a penis, finger or sex toy.
If you’re struggling to orgasm from penetration, try using a vibrator or sex toy and making sure your vagina is lubricated. Foreplay can also help by contracting the pelvic muscles and increasing sensitivity. And don’t forget to use the “woman on top” position, which helps stimulate the clitoris and vaginal canal. Just remember to communicate with your partner and let them know what feels pleasurable for you so they can adjust accordingly.
4. The Pelvic Floor
The pelvic floor muscles are incredibly important to orgasm and sexual pleasure for both women and men. They are responsible for the closure around the anus and vagina during penetration, enhancing sensation and the strength of penile ejaculation. The more healthy your pelvic floor, the greater these contractions are and the easier it is for you to orgasm from penetration. Those who have pelvic floor dysfunction (due to incontinence, pelvic organ prolapse, birth-related trauma or age-related damage) have reduced orgasms and less pleasure from sex. Regular kegel exercises and seeking the advice of a pelvic health physiotherapist can help improve your pelvic floor function, which then leads to more intense orgasms from penetration.
The pelvic muscles form a sheet of layered muscle with three openings – the vaginal opening, urethra and anus. To find your pelvic floor muscles, exhale and draw in your lower abdominal muscles and squeeze like you’re trying to stop gas or urine. Try to lift these muscles up inside and hold for 8 seconds.
Stimulating your clitoris is also an important part of orgasm during penetration. Kissing, licking or using toys to stimulate the area can be a great way of getting it ready. Generally, 70 to 80 percent of people need their clit directly stimulated to orgasm from penetration. The clitoris can be stimulated with a finger or with a vibrator during penetration.
