Oral sex is one of the biggest turn-ons for men. But it can be a tricky thing to get right.
We discovered that women adore giving head when their partner is lying down, and their favorite way to finish a blow job is by swallowing their man’s semen. Check out the tips below to make it happen.
1. Get her in the 69 position
The 69 position is a classic in oral sex, and it can be incredibly orgasmic. It is also a great way to get your partner familiar with your mouth (which, let’s be honest, is super hot). Whether you are doing this with an existing lover or new boo, it’s a surefire way to boost the intimacy in your relationship.
The most common 69 position involves one person lying on their back and the other person positioning themselves on top of them, lining up their genitals with the other’s mouth (and vice versa). This allows both people to be licking and sucking at the same time, which can lead to a more intense experience and even better orgasms.
But there are many other variations on this position that can be just as exciting, and some may be more comfortable for you than others. To help you explore the possibilities, we spoke to two queer sex experts about their favorite 69 positions and all of the hot variations they offer up. Check them out below! (Note: Before trying these positions, make sure you and your partner are fluid bonded and have had the STI talk.)
3. Make it fun
Sometimes, giving a blow job can feel like a big chore. But it doesn’t have to be that way. It can be a super hot, fun experience for both you and your partner if you make it so.
A great BJ is defined not by fancy tongue maneuvers or how deep you can go (unless that’s what your partner wants). You can lick, kiss, stroke, grind on, sing to, or blow on your partner’s glans—and they’ll be turned on by it all, too.
To get your partner worked up for oral sex, try teasing them before you take your turn. Kiss their hips and thighs, then tease them by kissing their shaft. Breathe on the tip of their dick and lick it lightly. Flirt with them. You can even lick their penis, a trick that many guys say is their most favorite BJ technique. This can trigger their taint, glans, and balls and bring them to orgasm. Check out this video for more on that. It’s called the ‘Taint-to-Tip’ technique.
4. Make it sexy
Getting a blowjob is one of the sexiest things that can happen to a man. So, it’s important to do all you can to make it a sexy experience. This includes using a variety of foreplay techniques to get the ball rolling. For example, you could try sucking on her horny dick, or kissing and locking your lips around it. And don’t forget to add a little spice with dirty talk and moans.
Having fun is also important. And you can have fun by laughing, dancing, or even singing to her. And don’t be afraid to use squirty cream, edible lubricants, or tasty toppings.
And don’t worry if you can’t give her the perfect blowjob; just remember that the 69 position is not the only way to get a good BJ. “There are many ways to do a blowjob,” says Moushumi Ghose, MFT, a licensed therapist. “You can lick, stroke, blow, kiss, and grind.” The more comfortable and pleasing you make it for her, the more enthusiastic she’ll be about giving head. She might even ask for more often!
5. Make it last
If your partner isn’t feeling the oral sex thing, try switching things up for them. Switching from moans and dirty talk to soft sounds, tasty licks, body paint, ice cream, or even some squirting lube can help them get excited about the next step.
For example, try having them sit on a chair instead of lying down, with their knees spread out slightly to allow for more clitoral exposure. Or you can place a pillow in front of them to tilt their hips upward slightly, making it easier for them to reach their labia with the tips of their fingers.
Remember that, just like kissing and make-out sessions, giving head is all about pleasure, not power. If your partner isn’t feeling the blow job, be a good sport and let them know they can stop whenever they want. But it’s also important to communicate what you’re feeling to them, and that includes telling them if something’s uncomfortable or you want to change the game. That way everyone’s happy and safe! And most importantly, have fun.
