Rape role play and other forms of CNC can be highly arousing, and it’s not uncommon for people to have these fantasies. This type of kink can include physical restriction, rough sex, and even kidnapping, blackmail, and hypnosis.
Before engaging in CNC, discuss goals with your partner. Also agree on a safeword and a way to stop the scene if either of you becomes uncomfortable.
Consensual Non-Consent Sex Fantasy
According to research, ravishment play or forced sex fantasies are common for all genders. In fact, a study found that 61% of women and 54% of men have dreamed about being made to have sex against their will. But if you’re interested in trying CNC, it’s important to talk about it with your partner and decide together whether it will work for both of you. If it’s something that could be triggering for one or both of you, it may be wise to seek couples therapy before you try any play so that you can explore your feelings about it safely.
If you both agree to try it, Luquin recommends setting clear boundaries and safety rules ahead of time. It’s also important to discuss what kind of orgasm you hope to achieve, as well as the type of control you want to exert in the scene.
Many people feel shame about wanting to play with CNC kink, as it is seen as a sign of trauma. But it is important to remember that having these fantasies doesn’t necessarily mean you’re a victim or a pervert, and they are more normal than many people realise. In fact, a lot of people use this type of kink to heal from past traumas they’ve experienced. So don’t be afraid to talk about it, and know that it can actually be very sensual and fun!
It’s a Kink
One of the more controversial forms of kink in BDSM is consensual non-consent, also known as ravishment play. These kinks involve the top or dominant using force or coercion to “ravish” the sub or bottom in sexually stimulating ways that can induce an intense orgasm for both parties. Many people associate ravishment with rape, but that’s not necessarily the case. Forced sex fantasies, or ravishment, are very common for both men and women. In fact, there is quite a bit of content on porn sites about ravishment, including police interrogation, military training, or a burglary with a homeowner in bed.
Whether you’re into this type of kink or not, it’s important to communicate clearly with your partner about what you want from the scene. What kind of feelings are you hoping to create in the other person? Do you want them to feel ravished, bludgeoned, or humiliated? Will you incorporate role play or other forms of kink like impact play or edge play?
You should also discuss how the scene is going to end. You might agree to a safeword that either of you can use at any time to stop the scene, or you might simply beg your partner to let it go at the first sign of pain or distress. Aftercare is an important part of any kink, but it’s especially crucial for CNC.
It’s a Game
For those who enjoy CNC, it can be a very intense and orgasmic experience. But a few important things need to be in place for the play to be safe and fun for both parties. First, communication is key. Discussing the scene ahead of time, including any limitations and boundaries set by either partner is helpful. For example, if one person is okay with their hands bound and doesn’t like to be fucked in the process, they should communicate this to their Dom.
It’s also wise to have a traditional safe word in place for the scene, so that anyone who feels uncomfortable can easily stop the scene. This may seem counterintuitive to those who are entangled in the cathartic sexual improv of the scene, but it’s necessary for ongoing consent and safety.
Finally, it’s vital for both the Dom and sub to agree on what they hope to get out of the scene. This includes if they want the scene to end with a kiss, or if they hope to use it as foreplay before other scenes. This can help them focus on their goals during the scene and make the play as enjoyable as possible. The more they talk and plan, the better the play will be for everyone involved. It’s also a good idea to discuss any potential aftercare needs for both partners, in case the scene is particularly intense or triggers any issues.
It’s a Fantasy
Many people associate CNC kink with forced sex, but it can also involve other forms of kink like impact play, spanking, and anal play. The goal of a CNC scene should always be to achieve the desired feeling for both partners. Some common feelings that are achieved in CNC scenes include being ravished, abused, humiliated, or controlled. It’s important to communicate these goals with your partner to make sure everyone is on the same page.
Rape and forced sex fantasies are incredibly common. A study by Justin Lehmiller found that 61% of women, 54% of men, and 68% of nonbinary people have had these types of fantasies. However, having these types of fantasies doesn’t make you a pervert or something to be ashamed of. Instead, it can be very satisfying to act out these fantasies in a safe and consensual way.
Angry sex can be a great way to get arouse by creating a situation where one partner wants to hurt the other. This type of play can be very intense and usually involves a lot of physical resistance. People who enjoy this type of kink often rely on a safe word to stop the scene or even the whole session if it becomes too uncomfortable.
The best part about this type of kink is that it allows you to explore unequal power dynamics and exercise dominance in situations where the outcome is completely up to your imagination. This type of play can help strengthen a BDSM relationship because it creates an opportunity to practice vulnerability together.
